Human beings are one of the most complicated species in the kingdom. We think, we speak, we create, and we feel many emotions on any given day. What separates us from the animals is our capacity to think. Take a look around, no person thinks the same as another person. The reality we live in is composed of diverse thoughts, ideas, colors, and various versions of the truth. Life is often a matter of perspective and interpretation.
It is very difficult to be honest with ourselves. There isn’t a single human being who doesn’t have skeletons in their closet. You, the reader alone, are very difficult to understand and comprehend. You, the reader of this content, are unique and personalized. But how often do you get upset at someone because “they don’t know the real you,” yet we ourselves don’t know the answer to that question, because who we are changes on any given day.
You go to a restaurant with a childhood friend, and they look at you sideways because you ordered vegetables. Your childhood friend always heard you as a child uttering how much you didn’t like vegetables.
However, as an adult, you changed your mind and now love vegetables.
Do you really get mad at your childhood friend and become confrontational with them because they don’t know the real you?
But how often do we get upset, angry, and confrontational with our loved ones because “they don’t know the real you”? But do you really know the answer to that question yourself?
We change like the seasons. Our moods are constantly influenced by our friends, media, family, levels of education, religion, ideas, and several other contributing factors that are still largely a mystery. We often hear, “Don’t let anyone tell you who you are.”
From a perspective, this statement is a catch-22. We are shaped, molded, and created through internal and external influences.
Without differences in thoughts and opinion, we would be sardines vacuumed into a can. Who we are and how we define ourselves are heavily influenced by both external and internal contributions.
Knowing yourself takes a lifetime as you age through the life course. As a child, you hated vegetables and loved fruit. But as an adult, you eat more vegetables and less fruit. So are we really going to become confrontational with every single person who we deem “doesn’t know the real me”?
Yet in the above example, who you are changes, and that change is constant.
Everyone has different fetishes, kinks, quirks, and outlooks on life. If you, the reader, find it very difficult to understand yourself. Why do we expect others to understand “us”? Are we not holding others to an impossible standard?
We must take caution in how we allow ourselves to become upset over anything that we feel is attacking us.
Everything in life is personal because we, as humans, have something called “personalities.” It is never just all about business. Being human also entails having emotions, whether they are negative, positive, or neutral.
Have you ever felt like someone was attacking you just because “they don’t understand you”?
By what standard do we hold “these” people accountable towards? As if they can somehow magically understand “the real you” ? Your friend thought they knew “the real you,” but when you ordered vegetables, they were in shock.
We shouldn’t get so upset at anyone because they don’t understand “who you really are.”
Does your childhood friend know “who you really are”? Are you going to become upset with your childhood friend because they examine and question your sudden palate for vegetables?
But how often do we hold our loved ones to this impossible expectation? The expectation of our loved ones to somehow magically understand who we really are.
How often do we get upset with our friends because they just don’t understand?
We’ve all been there, and we’ve all misinterpreted someone else’s feelings and emotions because that’s a part of being a human being.
Examine your own mind, and you will realize just how vulnerable each of us is in his or her own thinking.
If human beings are this vulnerable to another person’s thoughts. Imagine the intensity a human might have when they hear someone else’s opinion. Imagine that intensity when you are invited into a home with humans who don’t look like you.
As human beings, we are very and dangerously opinionated.
We get upset when we don’t win.
We get angry when we don’t get our way.
We’ve all been there.
But expecting a loved one or a friend to understand your vulnerable side or your “authentic” side is like asking a two-year-old to memorize the quadratic formula.
Each of us has both light and dark within us.
Each of us has a good side and a bad side.
Try being honest with someone on the first date and see if they stick around. Are you bringing your inauthentic side to a first date if you don’t reveal “who you really are”? Do you now understand the counter intuitiveness we sometimes may have? We want others to be authentic, and we tell others to be authentic, but is this really logical? Ideal? Realistic? Are we being “inauthentic” on the first date, by not revealing “our true selves” ?
All humans, whether they are LGBTQ, minorities, white, tribal, atheists, or nerds and dorks, are hard to understand. But expecting others to somehow understand the “real me” is preposterous and counterintuitive.
Try being married to someone, and you will understand just how difficult it is for even our most loved ones to understand our moods, emotions, and irritations.
When we take a humble and graceful approach to others’ thoughts and opinions. We will maintain a calm approach in our dealings with others. However, becoming upset with another person because “they don’t know the real you” is a standard and expectation that is impossible to meet without hostility, mean looks, and aggressive outbursts over standards that are unattainable.
If you want to become detangled from a quantum entanglement.
Set free your expectations of those you perceive as your enemies. You will realize they are just as human as you are, with faults, problems, fetishes, skeletons, and imperfections.
The more you carry envy, jealousy, comparison, and hatred inside your heart for someone you perceive as “your enemy”. The longer you will be with this person or group inside the karmic life cycle.
Make amends and be at peace with all. Until then, you will not free yourself from quantum entanglement.